Communication is essential if a parent wants their child to take an active role at home. Communicating with our children can sometimes be a strenuous task because communication is a dialogue, so it must be active. A parent must actively pay attention to what your child is sharing with them. Children are disappointed when parents do not remember the events they told them. This leads to them conclude that their parents have not been listening since the beginning of the conversation.
Parents Should Be Excellent Listeners
Excellent listening skills and communication are essential for success in parenting, especially the skill of careful listening. Your child’s feelings and opinions are important. You must make sure that you sit and listen to them, then openly discuss the subject matter honestly with them.
Most parents are wrong when they think that these children do not feel anything or know anything because they are children. If you are a parent with this kind of thought pattern, you have misunderstood everything. A child has tendencies to see their parents’ reaction to what they discuss with them. If you are very upset about what your child is telling you, he may never return to discuss his/her problems with you. Yes, as parents, we have more knowledge and experience than our children. However, an appropriate conversation shows we are sensitive to the feelings and emotions of our children, allowing them to speak openly and honestly without fear of our response.
Our response as a parent should be more of a question than an affirmation. Asking questions opens up the dialog box that allows your child to talk more about they feel. Then parents can better relate where these feeling are coming from. When you respond in this way, you have the opportunity to find the solution your child desires.
You are a guide at this stage. A child appreciates parents who listened to them because it makes them feel safe to talk to about anything.
When having a conversation, look into your child’s eyes, stop everything you were doing or engaged in. This is crucial because they can read your sincerity, and appreciate your complete and undisturbed attention to what they have to say. Listen to what they have to say without interrupting them; use body language to display you are listening to them. Stay calm, be curious, and then suggest possible solutions to the problem.
Listen to your child, ask questions about why he/she feels that way, and then suggest ways to minimize their issue. Do not discourage them when they are in a bad mood, observe it, and then teach them to control it even in the most frustrating situations.
Parents should be aware that children have feelings and live in stressful situations like us. So, when you have the opportunity to have a conversation, always listen with great care.