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Discipline,  Parenting

Detrimental Effects of Verbal Abuse and How to Stop the Cycle

It is very important we always monitor our words and actions around our children. These words and actions, however, if not carefully guided, could cause trauma that may take long to heal. Verbal abuse is one of those actions and is fast becoming popular among American parents.

A study reveals that 63 percent of more than 3,000 American parents show verbal aggression towards their children in their homes. Yelling, screaming, blaming, insults, name -calling, swearing, or using vulgar words are all forms of verbal abuse. These actions hurt- especially if the person doing it is a parent or a teacher. If you’ve ever been through this, I’m sure you don’t want your children to experience the same. This may traumatize them emotionally and may take long to heal. In addition, verbal abuse can ruin your child’s self-esteem, hinder his performance in his academic and social skills, and stop him from trusting people and making friends.

Children Suffering From Verbal Abuse

How do you know if a child is suffering from verbal abuse? They may show physical aggression. They may also show destructive tendencies such as cutting, scratching or hitting themselves and other harmful activities. They may fight friends, be hostile to people, or be violent. It may also slow down their performance in their academic, social or physical development.

The study also shows that children who are verbally abused are most likely to become victims of abuse in the future. They may become abusive and violent themselves.

Raising children can be very stressful at times, and dealing with their actions can be challenging. Often, they do things that upset us. We verbally react and say hurtful things we might later regret to them. But when this action becomes a habit, then it is not normal, and something needs to be done. If you’re one of those parents, it’s crucial you seek professional help and adopt other purposeful and constructive form discipline. Also, get help learning how to keep your anger in check. When you’re angry, learn to choose your words very carefully and not say things that will belittle them. Always bear in mind that, your child looks up to you, as a good parent, you should be a good role model to them.

Learn to cherish your child by treating him with love, respect, and tenderness. If you treat them this way every day, they will grow to become happy and loving children