Discipline,  Parenting

Managing Conflicts About Applying Rules At Home

Some parents may think that setting strict rules can create a barrier between them and their children. However, this is not true. Yes, you must indicate these rules to your child and the consequences if they violate any of them. A parent must also proclaim flexibility in relation to these rules. A child can complain and get angry when they become the perpetrator of any offense, but they will later realize that this you did because you care about them. A parent can define and apply certain parameters that will allow your child to feel loved and safe, and these same rules can sometimes be a problem for them.

Parents can avoid setting rules because due to the fear of conflict and discomfort. However, it is never easy to develop and introduce rules, especially when the child is fully-grown. Breaking rules and moving borders are part of their growth.

We sometimes want to be friends with our children, but when we implement these laws, it is impossible to think that we can always be the closest friends we wanted. Therefore, we must give the child an orientation that the main function of these established rules is for their own protection, nurturing, and bringing them up in comfort.

Actions parents can take

When children violate the rules, parents should not overreact too strictly, disproportionate, or utter impractical sentences that jeopardize the effectiveness of making rules. A child will feel hatred for such a parent instead of love. Therefore, you need to inform your child about the new rules, first talk about the consequences of the violation of the rules, which is the punishment, and how the parent will apply it to them. Let us be fair, this is not an opportunity to disciplining your child, but the ability to raise them properly. Consequences must go hand-in-hand with restrictions, so your child knows what they get when they violate the set rules. The penalties you determine must be reasonable and related to damage made.


All punishments should match what you have agreed on with your children. Do not use empty threats to children before violating any rule. Parents should share their feelings of anger, disappointment, or sorrow with their children in a lovely manner; this would stimulate a powerful motivational effect on your child. Parents should say words like; it is understandable when the rules are broken because we are all more inclined to say or do what we do not want to say when we are angry, it is sometimes better to give yourself time to rest before we say anything and something we do not want to say.


Set basic rules that are clear enough for your child to comprehend. It is important that you are consistent in following the disciplinary measure defined after each offense, and that your child understands why he is doing everything. Remember that failure to comply with the rule can be a penalty of additional orientation to the child. Start dealing with their minds at this tender stage of their life. Think and act, the second must not precede the first.