Discipline,  Parenting

Patience is Key to Successful Discipline

Patience is key when disciplining children. Let’s be realistic; it is not an easy task. In fact, it can take months or even years before children can learn what we are trying to ask from them. It can feel like you are fighting a never-ending war.

Discuss Discipline Plan With Your Child

In order to minimize these occurrences, you must have a consistent disciplinary plan to teach children positive and acceptable behavior. Children do not know that some behaviors are unacceptable.  It is up to the parents to lay the foundation of what is and is not acceptable.  When the child decides test boundaries and shows unacceptable behavior it is important that you set the tone that there is no room for negotiations for bad behavior.

Always discuss the outcome of different behavior issues, including any disciplinary measure you would take. Do not give instructions or warnings without giving the consequences of their crimes.  When it comes to dealing with your child, you need a lot of patience.  You need to sit down with the child and talk about consequences for any inappropriate behavior, decision, or action as well as positive consequences for appropriate behavior.

Be Concise and Consistent

Be concise and consistent when discussing these consequences, so you can easily move forward at the time of enforcing them. Children love to try things, therefore, they will usually test the boundaries set by parents.  Their temptation to “circumvent the rules” can be overwhelming when they are actually testing your patience.  Parents must always insist and be firm, but honest, while consistently enforcing consequences for inappropriate actions; this is not the time for negotiation. If you were consistent, the actions will eventually be corrected.

Parents must always be smart to rethink what punishment is best.  At times, the consequence that initially worked no longer works after you have taken the time to discuss the situation with your child. Parents should never negotiate rules put in place for the well-being of their children.  However, as your child is growing, you might want to re-evaluate if the rules need to be modified to meet their growing needs. As a result, there will be cases or times for creating new consequences depending on their age, temperament, or level of maturity.